CFnm General FAQs

General questions asked:

  • Is this a vax event? Yes.
  • What are the event vaccination protocol? You MUST have the first two series of COVID-19 vaccines (Moderna/Pfizer) or the J&J, PLUS TWO additional boosters (Moderna/Pfizer).
  • What if I only have a J&J vaccine and provide a negative Covid-19 test? You CANNOT attend; our COVID-19 protocol is the rule for our group, other attendees, and the venue.
  • Do I have to be in BFD-Atlanta to attend? No, this event is open to ALL Women Masters, Mistresses, Dominants, and all s-types men (switches must be in bottom mode).
  • How do I attend this party? Contact us by sending a request via email or view our upcoming events. Our events require completion of an online RSVP form and that you be vetted.
  • How will I know I can attended? You will receive an email confirmation with the event detail and location as your approval to attend.
  • What if I do not receive an email confirmation? You did not receive approval to attend the event.
  • How can I get vetted? See “About being Vetted“.
  • Is the COVID-19 vaccination part of the vetting process? Yes, you will need to be vaccinated for most, if not all of our intimate gatherings. A negative Rapid Diagnostic Test WITHIN 72 hours of the event may also be required.
  • I do not plan on getting the COVID-19 vaccination, can a negative Rapid Diagnostic Test for COVID-19 suffice? NO.
  • What is the age requirement? You must be 21 or older.
  • How much does it cost to attend the party and is there tier pricing? Cost can range from $20 to $50 per person depending on venue. Yes, there will always be tiered pricing for our CFnm parties..
  • May I pay at the door? No, fees are ONLY accepted via pre-paid tickets online. For the safety of the party, no monies are accepted or exchanged at the venue.
  • What if I come late, after the doors close? You will not be granted entry. For the safety of the guest, the door will not be opened once closed for the core party hours.
  • I am a gay male, but sometimes I like being dominated by FemDoms; will I be excluded? No, all s-types men are welcome regardless of sexuality.
  • I am new to the community, may I RSVP to attend? No, you must be vetted (attended community events), invited by another vetted attendee, or invited by a member for BFD-Atlanta.
  • I was approved to attend the party, may I bring a guest along with me? No, you may not bring unapproved or uninvited guest to the party—you will be denied entry.
  • I am a Dominant man who likes CFnm parties, may I come? This party is for all s-types men; you are required to be in bottom mode at all times if you attend.
  • I am a male switch and can be dominant; am I welcome to the party? This party is for all s-type men where NO switching is allowed; you are required to be in bottom mode at all times if you attend.
  • I am mostly a bottom for play with FemDoms, can I come to the party? It is possible. Remember, this even centers on power exchange AND play in the context of dominance and submission.
  • What if I am a woman who switches? You can attend, but must remain in Dominant mode the entire party.
  • Do all men have to be naked? Yes, this is a Clothed Female-naked male party. Men must be naked during party core hours. Exception is those men in food service.
  • How will FemDoms know which submissive are open to service or play? The Bands of Service will indicate the men open to play and at which level.
  • I am not a Woman Master, Mistress, or Dominant, may I still attend? As a Woman, you must identify as a Master, Mistress, or Dominant to attend this party. The event centers on Her domination and his submission.
  • I am in a Female Led dynamic, may we come? Yes, couples are welcome.
  • I identify more as a Female Top, may I attend? Unfortunately, no. This event is for women who live and embrace BDSM through play AND power exchange.
  • Is this a sex positive event? The venue is sex positive, but listen to House Rules regarding the specific limitation. THIS IS NOT A SEX PARTY OR ORGY!
  • As a man, what if I get sexually aroused by the people, scenes, and activities; will I be asked to leave? No, but you will not be allowed to sexually gratify yourself “just because”. You should note Host/House rules and follow the guidance of the FemDom you are in service to.
  • What types of activities will occur at this CFnm party? Various forms of BDSM activities including, but not limited to: nudity, touching, service, impact play, wax play, rope, CBT, humiliation, body worship, insertables/pervetables, edge play (needles, fire, knife, etc.), games…and the list goes on. Come with an open mind to explore.
  • Is alcohol served? For the most part, CFnm parties are a “dry event”.  On special occasions, a house cocktail may be served; this is not a guarantee based on venue requirements. However, attendees MUST drink responsibly and may NOT show up intoxicated; you WILL be denied entry.
  • I’m a bit shy and I want to play, but am timid about initiating play. What can I do? You can attend and negotiate basic service or play at your own pace; limits are respected and observed.
  • I just want to come and watch; can I? No, voyeurs will not be allowed. Attendees are expected to interact and participate.
  • I’ve never been to a CFnm party, what can I expect? A safe space where Women and men can enjoy themselves uninhibited.
  • Will safe words be allowed? Yes, safe words (RED, YELLOW, GREEN) will be respected by all.
  • Will I be forced to participate in the activities? No, you will not be forced, yet this is a CFnm parted where participation is expected. If you do not want to participate, please do not come to the party; wait until you feel comfortable to participate.
  • I am comfortable being naked, but uncomfortable playing in front of others; how can I participate? This is a play party, you can negotiate basic service or play, or defer not to come until you are comfortable.
  • May I wear a black ban so I do not have engage with a FemDom? No, you may not. If you are uncomfortable with this type of party, please do not come. Participation is required.
  • I have some limitations when I play, will that be a problem? No, limits are respected; just share when negotiating service/play.
  • May I bring knee pads or a knee pillow for kneeling? Yes, both are welcome to be used.
  • What if I can’t get vetted, are there any exceptions? No, you must be vetted.
  • What should I bring to the party? For men: a bag (backpack or duffel) with a name tag to store your clothes, shoes, and personal belongings; personal toy bag; a clean bath towel; your ID; and pre-paid ticket. For Women: a personal storage bag with name tag; toy bag; your ID; and pre-paid ticket. All, please tag your bag with a personal name or luggage tag.

This is a living document and will be subject to changes without notice.